Considering Separation

If a relationship is in difficulties there are many stages in a relationship, when our services can prove helpful.

 

​Couples/Relationship Therapy or Mediation?

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It can be very difficult to know when to stop working on a relationship and bring it to an end, especially when you have been together a long time or have children or other dependants. People occasionally start mediation or divorce proceedings and then find they regret not having tried harder to make the relationship work and they may then try couples/relationship therapy again. On the other hand, clearly, not all relationships can work out and therapy may be unproductive. As we in Relationship Resolve have worked as both couples therapists and family mediators, we are very well placed to be able to help you decide whether, with our help, having weighed everything up and listened to each other, you feel there is scope to start or continue couples therapy or whether you would both prefer now to separate and start mediation and/or seek legal advice.

 

Sometimes, even if a couple is having couples therapy to try to work things out together, they may decide to separate in order to give each other space to see how they feel about each other and whether they want to stay together in the long-term or not.

 

Our service is different from counselling/therapy in that it can help you to look at the practicalities of this decision, such as, whether there should be a finite length of time for your separation and if so, how long the separation might last, where will you both live and how might other practicalities be agreed.

 

Clearly, where there is a chance the relationship might be repaired or recovered communication between you is of the utmost importance and we will work to ensure that constructive and honest communication is encouraged during this time.

 

If you decide to divorce or permanently separate

 

At what is often a very painful and challenging time, we can help you to work together collaboratively to make the decisions you need to as efficiently and effectively as possible, ensuring that both people have the best possible chance to express what they need and want.

 

The main areas which are often brought to us are usually concerning arrangements for the children, extended family and financial issues.

 

However, couples at this time will also often need to look at how they manage the initial separation. This might include establishing interim living arrangements and how you spend time with the children if you have them. You may wish to discuss the influence or contact arrangements of extended family members and how these can best be resolved if there is conflict. Our aim is to support you to arrive at a mutually respectful plan going forward so that conflict is minimised.

 

If you would like to know more or to discuss booking an initial session please contact us - without obligation.

Should we decide together that our service would be beneficial for the issue you are bringing  you would need to complete our contract form available from our Bookings and Enquiries page.